So are you or aren't you? You have the power to choose!
Throughout our lives we seem to go through a conditioning process. This process has created a mind-set pretty much overflowing with I am nots. As a child at school, if you received less than great grades on your report card, did you think to yourself, I am not smart. If you came anywhere other than first, did you say I am not talented or good enough. If you were criticized did you believe that you are not good. If you looked in the mirror and compared yourself to a movie idol or model and did you tell yourself, I am not attractive. If a relationship broke up did you think; I am unloved or I am unworthy or unloveable. These are just a start of the list that some of us have, that are repeated throughout our younger, developing years and into adulthood and can become our core defining self-concept of what we think of ourselves and what we attract to into our life, without us even realizing it! Overcoming the I am not mentality begins with trusting your inner world of spirit (who we truly are within - the voice you hear when you do not physically speak). Go through the largest list you can make of the things that you would like to define your life. Then, make the shift in your imagination and self talk. Change your thinking from an I am not or I am hoping to become to I AM. Begin with your inner voice, how you speak to yourself. Start changing the words you keep saying to yourself. Instead of I am incapable of getting a job, shift to I am capable. Similarly, replace comments of I am unlucky in love is replaced by I am love. I am unworthy of happiness becomes I am happiness. Try to ensure that you always make your very first thought the honoring of your Divine spirit (who you truly are within). This will help you to rise to unimagined heights and will help stop you holding yourself back by the I am nots you have conditioned yourself with. And to end our monthly chat - our next adventure for couples, which was kayaking from Puhoi to Wenderholm and finishing off with a delicious BBQ, was postponed due to the delightful weather last weekend, so it is now on Saturday the 13 May. We have 2 spots available if you are keen to join us - email us to confirm. Otherwise if zip lining and wine tours on Waiheke are more your thing, keep a look out on our website and FB page for the next adventure coming up towards the end of May. Because, couples who play together, stay together :) Remember, if you think you can, you can, if you think you can't, you are right. Only YOU get to decide which option you will take. We do hope you take your power to focus on the I am's and the I can's. Onwards & Upwards! x Kim & John