Do you trust yourself?

Confidence comes from a latin word fidere' which means "to trust"; therefore, having self-confidence is having trust in one's self - Self-confidence is a person's belief or trust in their own ability.

When I was younger I had very low self-confidence. I wouldn't even go to the ice-cream shop by myself to get an ice-cream!

In fact I remember a time when I was younger, probably around 6 or 7 years old and I really wanted an ice-cream from the ice-cream truck. So my Dad gave me the money and said "off you go". I remember looking at him in disbelief! You mean I need to go alone???!!! You aren't coming with me?

He shook his head and encouraged me to go get myself an ice-cream. And I just couldn't do it! And so, I missed out on getting an ice-cream.

Certainly a lesson for me, coz my parents knew I had to get over my fear of speaking to people and had to learn to do things myself and tried to encourage my independence and self-confidence.

It took a looong time before I had the confidence to go get myself an ice-cream. Going to an all girls boarding school in a different town to my parents at a very young age (I was 8), certainly helped me to be more independent even though I had a very shaky start and was extremely homesick.

I didn't realize it at the time, but as difficult as it was being away from my parents and home comforts, boarding school taught me a lot.

I was bullied a lot coz I was different - I had big lips, a big laugh and started developing boobs and a round bum from a very early age. Very different to my peers.

I was also incredibly homesick for a long time. In fact I would pack up all my belongings at any opportunity I could and cry when I had to go back.

I remember my darling grandparents coming to fetch me one weekend and I packed everything I had into my little suitcase. When my gran opened it up to help me unpack she asked why I had SO much stuff. And I told her coz I was going to stay with them and then go home.

After the first school holidays I spent at home, when it was time to go back to boarding school, I clung to the leg of my bed for dear life, while my poor Dad tried to pry me loose to take me back. He ended up carrying me like a baby and walking around the garden with me for a long time, calming me down and promised me that if I still didn't like it at the end of the year, I could come home.

Fortunately I ended up settling down by then, made some friends and although the bullying continued, I learned to cope with it (well I thought I did)

My poor parents. I'm the one that wanted to go to boarding school in the first place, because my brother was at the boys boarding school in the same town and my 8 year old brain thought it would be fun! All my parents were trying to do is give me the best education they could and it was heartbreaking for them to see me so distressed and upset.

It was through all the challenges that I went through, many more after that, as life naturally brings to you, that has helped me grow my confidence in myself.

Lots of letting go, lots of coaching, learning, growth, repair, self love, learning the power of positive self talk, exercise, meditation, healthy eating, spirituality, etc. etc.

It most certainly has been a journey and of course such is life for all of us.

Confidence is certainly a subject close to my heart and one of the reasons why I run online programs and provide one on one and group confidence & commitment coaching.

The topics I cover are varied, what works for me and using the years of training I've had to help others to do the same. LOVE THE SKIN YOU'RE IN!

If you are interested in finding out more about working with me one on one or know someone who could benefit, please contact me for further details.

Because beautiful people, we all deserve to love who we are and self confidence is the starting point.

Big love to you all



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